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by Helana Cornelius,Shoshana Faire

Book by Cornelius, Helana, Faire, Shoshana
Download Everyone Can Win: How to Resolve Conflict epub
ISBN: 0684868512
ISBN13: 978-0684868516
Category: Self-Help
Subcategory: Relationships
Author: Helana Cornelius,Shoshana Faire
Language: English
Publisher: Simon & Schuster Australia (December 1, 1999)
Pages: 192 pages
ePUB size: 1170 kb
FB2 size: 1541 kb
Rating: 4.3
Votes: 391
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This is one of the most useful books I have ever 'used'. It is not simply a book one reads, its a doing book. Especially useful is the simple explanation of Carl Jung's theory of projection. I first studied this book during a Conflict Resolution Training course well over a decade ago yet, the information is equally, if not more, relevant today as it was then. Highly recommend this book.
This excellent workbook for handling interpersonal conflict has been reprinted over thirteen times since it was originally published in 1989, and enjoys international recognition as one of the most practical "tool-kits" for achieving win/win resolutions. There are twelve "tools" in the kit. Just as a tool has many uses, so these skills can be transferred across diverse spheres of activity. The skills you teach a young child are basically the same ones needed by an international diplomat. One morning at 7:00 a.m. you'll pull out a "tool" for a problem in the kitchen, and find yourself needing it again in a difficult meeting at 11:00 a.m. The book presents everyday examples and stories that reflect the variety of contexts and the transferability of skills. Issues dealt with include: creative response, empathy, assertiveness, co-operative power, managing emotions, mapping conflict, negotiation/mediation, and broadening perspectives. There is also a helpful Conflict Checklist in the Appendices to analyze a problem in detail or to decide which tool is most needed in a situation. This is an indispensable reference for leaders who must frequently deal with conflict.
I found this book in a bin when I was putting my garbage out. Maybe that says something about the book, or maybe someone just bought the substantially re-edited new edition (which you can "look inside" here).

A statement like, "Some psychologists find it useful to work with the idea ...", has no business in a book like this. It might be appropriate in a student tutorial, but is just slovenly thinking coming from professionals writing a guide to conflict resolution.

In the same paragraph they say, "Our upbringing allows us to be conscious only of a part of who we really are." That is just wrong. We are conscious of all of who we really are UNTIL our upbringing DENIES it to us. In the original edition the authors invoke Carl Jung as their source for this supposed truth. And here is what demonstrates their intellectual bankruptcy - in the new edition they have changed from "the psychologist Carl Jung", to "the famous psychiatrist Dr Carl Jung", to make what they are saying look more undeniable, when in fact Carl Jung is no longer relevant, and any book spouting his views is fatally flawed.

They run the "evil in all of us" story. In their words, "There's a rascal in all of us", that is ,"a much less dangerous rascal when taken out and acknowledged ...". In the new edition they tone this down to, "There's an aggressive element in all of us. It's much less dangerous when you can allow it into consciousness and then hold it in check with your other caring, ethical and law-abiding qualities." It has a sort of "Jung does Motherhood" quality.

I have no need for conflict resolution, so I can't tell you what the best book is. But this isn't it.
This is one of the best books on conflict resolution I have seen. It is practical, easy to read, makes conflict understandable and laughable, and covers the key underlying problems inherent in most conflict scenarios. Most people view conflict as an out and out battle. Clues and levels of conflict are discussed and tools anyone can use are included. I had used their earlier version for an under-graduate (college level) course I taught from 1992-1998 and the book always received rave reviews. Delightful book for a difficult topic!