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by Sid Korpi

Author Sid Korpi explains, The pain of losing a beloved animal companion is unlike any other. However, because our society on the whole discounts our grief as frivolous since weve "merely lost an animal," too many of us feel we must keep silent in our anguish or be labeled somehow defective. Good Grief: Finding Peace After Pet Loss ends the misperception that we must suffer in solitary confinement and thus prolong, or stay permanently stuck in, our grief. The book melds the authors personal perspectives, as both a pet lover and animal chaplain, and astounding stories with those of professionals (such as veterinarians, animal communicators, and religious leaders) and other animal lovers the world over to help you make the pet-grieving process as positive as possible.
Download Good Grief: Finding Peace After Pet Loss: Personal and Professional Insights on the Animal Lover's Unique Grieving Process epub
ISBN: 161539981X
ISBN13: 978-1615399819
Category: Self-Help
Subcategory: Death & Grief
Author: Sid Korpi
Language: English
Publisher: Healy House Books (August 24, 2009)
Pages: 317 pages
ePUB size: 1726 kb
FB2 size: 1279 kb
Rating: 4.7
Votes: 793
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Bought as gift very helpful for my sad friend
Mitars Riders
Most of this book is stories of people and their pets. It doesn't address how YOU can deal with your loss in a way which helps you. Try some other books.
Cherry The Countess
This book was required reading for a health care course. I thought it was good. It raised issues I would have never thought of. It was replete with responses of grievers which I thought helpful.
Had to buy this for a class. Just okay.
Good book Was interesting book. I recently lost my dog,so it helped me to cope with my loss. Other people discussed their loss and how they coped with it. Would recommend it to other people.
After recently losing our beloved cocker spaniel, I was hoping to find a book that would help me along in the grieving process, which has been extremely painful. While I found many of the stories that other people shared on their losses to be very helpful, I never would have purchased this book had I known that the author wrote from a "new age" point of view. Discussing Wicca and ghosts and the "Other Side" to be a huge turn off! I was not even able to read much of the book, as this was a huge distraction,and totally against my belief system. I will be returning this book to Amazon, something that I never felt the need to do with previous book purchases!
I would so like to thank Sid Korpi for writing such a heartfelt, uniquely empathic and sensitive book. I have always loved animals. (My family inherited a little chihuahua I grew up with). I can honestly say, however, that after reading this book, I will never be able to look at someone with their pet again without feeling even deeper feelings of affection for their precious creatures. I believe the book in effect touched my humanity and made me a better person for having read it. I think it would do the same for you.
Introducing the book Korpi asks what is a pet owner to do when those around them fail to understand the enormity of their loss. She argues that "Grieving the loss of a loved one, whether he or she is human or an animal, is arguably the most difficult task we must all inevitably endure." Significantly she also acknowledges however that "the pain of loss is compounded by the withdrawal/rejection you may feel from those who value the human/animal bond substantially less than you do." She very importantly points out that there is "something unique about relationships with animals" describing their unconditionally loving natures and lack of judgment. Korpi concludes her Introduction by stating that "This book is is intended to share stories of the miraculous ways in which that bond remains intact beyond death."
Part One: The All Important Grieving Process includes two informative charts--one on CHARACTERISTICS OF BEREAVED PET OWNERS from New Perspectives on Our Lives With Companion Animals and another LEVELS OF HUMAN BONDING WITH ANIMALS from The Loss of a Pet. I especially love Korpi's suggestion on how to address those insensitive to pet loss taken from Eleanor Harris' book Pet Loss: A Spiritual Guide" In my opinion you are not an animal person and have probably never experienced the special bond you can have with a pet. You do not understand the love...and companionship my pet gave my life. Please do not be so judgmental and intolerant, as I feel deep personal loss at this time." Also as Dr Michael Fox, the Animal Doctor, so aptly pointed out: "Many people say they have mourned the loss of a devoted, affectionate pet that brought joy and unconditional love into their lives more than that of a close relative."
Parts Two: Afterlife Connections-Humans and Three: Animals and the Afterlife could arguably be challenged by those of some religious faiths. Notably, however, even evangelist Billy Graham once said (as Korpi quoted): "I think God will have prepared everything for our perfect happiness (in Heaven). If it takes my dog being there, I believe he'll be there."
Personally I feel that Part Four: Memoralizing Methods was probably the most important section of the book. HOW DO I LOVE THEE? NUMEROUS WAYS TO HONOR YOUR BELOVED ANIMAL COMPANION'S LIFE is a compilation of suggested ideas Korpi collected to help people memorialize and honor their pets. There are over sixty (60) suggestions offered here from writing poems, songs, stories and books about your pet to drawing or painting pictures of your pet to embroidering a pillow with a likeness of your pet to joining pet loss support groups and including your pet in your daily prayers to donating to an animal rescue organization in your pet's name, volunteering in animal shelters, as a foster family for no-kill pet rescue organizations, etc. Korpi even includes a list of songs inspired somehow by our animal companions, my favorite being "Mr Bo Jangles" by the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band: "The dog up and died. he up and died. And after twenty years, he still grieves." Tenderly noted also are the lyrics from "Holly's Favorite Things" a song submitted by Erika Thorne of Minneapolis, Minnesota.
The concluding sections of the book are Parts Five, Six and Seven: All Things Considered, The Role of Philosophy, Religion and Spirituality in Healing and Moving On After Loss.
There is SO MUCH in this book. It is so well researched. There are numerous submitted stories lovingly included with photographs of many precious companion animals--dogs, cats,horses, rabbits, parakeets, etc.--(now deceased) attached. It was so touching to see how deeply these pet owners loved their companion animals. I found myself in tears many times. The human-animal bond is indeed a very special one no person should take lightly. I therefore strongly recommend this book to all--pet owners and non pet owners alike.
There are quite a few books about pet loss on the market, and I've read a good number of them over the years, but none has resonated with me as much as Good Grief - Finding Peace After Pet Loss by Sid Korpi. Korpi is a writer, editor, journalist and ordained minister, and most importantly, a lifelong animal lover who understands the human-animal bond. While most pet loss books focus on the stages of grief and the psychology of the mourning process, Korpi goes beyond those aspects in her book. She shows the reader how to :

-Emotionally prepare for a pet's euthanasia and understand when it's time
-View death not as an ending, but (as animals see it) a natural transition
-Cope with being around insensitive people
-Memorialize and celebrate the pet's life
-Move on after loss and love again.

The book addresses all aspects of the grieving process, from understanding what to expect to how to move on after loss. I particularly enjoyed the two sections Korpi presents about afterlife connections. She shares stories of humans and animals and how they've connected with their surviving loved ones after their deaths. Some of the stories are taken from her own life, others come from a wide variety of animal lovers from around the world, and all are comforting and will reassure the reader that the love betwen humans and their beloved animal companions truly is eternal. Korpi also offers suggestions on how we can feel and encourage this connection with our departed loved ones.

The section on memorializing methods offers many wonderful suggestions on how to remember a pet in both public and private ways, stressing that this is an important part of the grieving process. Korpi addresses the role of spirituality, philosophy and religion in healing from pet loss by sharing the different viewpoints, including some from the perspectives of various religious leaders. The book contains an impressive bibliography and grief support resource section.

What makes this book different from other pet loss books is Korpi's compassion, empathy and sometimes, even a gentle sense of humor. Rather than feeling like a book written by a counselor, reading Good Grief feels like a conversation with a supportive, caring friend. It certainly provided comfort for my own grieving heart.