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by Phyllis Lyon,Del Martin

Lesbian/Woman, written by the founders of the Daughters of Bilitis, is a comprehensive account of the lesbian world by two of the GLBT community's legendary activists.
Download Lesbian/woman epub
ISBN: 0912078200
ISBN13: 978-0912078205
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Author: Phyllis Lyon,Del Martin
Language: English
Publisher: Glide Publications (1972)
Pages: 283 pages
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Rating: 4.2
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This is a wonderful classic by Phyllis Lyon/Del Martin. It was one of the first positive books on Lesbianism when others were talking only of the evils of same sex relationships. Phyllis and Del enjoyed many years of life together, and their story is inspiring to Lesbians of all ages.

In a world that only spoke of tragic endings for lesbian lovers, Phyllis and Del broke the mold and revealed truth: Relationships take hard work, however 30/40 year committments are more common than we were told!

I am honored to have known them, and to recommend this book.
This book was so ahead of its time. If you're gay and you haven't heard of Phyllis Lyon & Del Martin, you need to check out this book. This is one of those accounts that will be forever remembered and cherished by thousands of people, as it helped bridge the gap of understanding from LGBTQ you and straight family and friends, and helped normalize it to people who had never even considered that it could be just that: normal.

Thank you so much Phyllis & Del for writing this wonderful book over 40 years ago. It was an invaluable resource then and it's still an invaluable resource today.
Such a great piece of work, embracing so very well the needs, and conditions we as gay women have experienced. Exceptional history of the culture and trauma that was put upon us by those refusing to acknowledge our normalacy. Very very well written by an obviously quite talented and intelligent author. One can only admire how very much she contributed to our growth and acceptance as a repressed group.
The book was in very good condition.

I haven't read the whole book yet but it represents an excellent history of the lesbian movement by two women who began it all.
A timely discussion for survivors of The Well of Loneliness.
I am so happy with the quality of this book, i haven't read it yet because i literally opened it about five minutes ago. But it came way before i had expected it too and it was better than i thought it'd be. When i bought it it had said little ware and tare, but there's hardly none, it just looks like someone bought it then set it on their shelf for a while. It's great and i cannot wait to read it.
i love it
The authors wrote in the Introduction to this 1972 book, "Nonfiction books and articles are almost exclusively devoted to the male homosexual, with perhaps a chapter on or incidental mention of the Lesbian... The lack of research and scientific knowledge on the Lesbian is due to a number of factors... Most researchers are men who are interested primarily in the enigma of male homosexuality... and when they do decide to conduct a study on Lesbians, they find a great resistance from these women, because they are men. Women researchers... who might meet with less resistance from Lesbians are not likely to go into this particular field lest they themselves become suspect to their academic colleagues... It is our contention that there can be no definitive book on the Lesbian, nor one which is wholly objective. We do feel, however, that the experience of Lesbians, expressed in their own terms and in the context of their own self awareness, has merit in and of itself... The particular experience we bring to this book is that we are Lesbians and have lived together as lovers for nineteen years. We also helped found the Daughters of Bilitis in 1955... Our stance in the book is that of the everyday life experience of the Lesbian: how she views herself as a person; how she deals with the problems she encounters in her various roles as woman, worker, friend, parent, child, citizen, wife, employer, welfare recipient, home owner and taxpayer; and how she views other people and the world around her." (Pg. 1-3)

They note, "we had no idea of how prevalent suicide is until we learned of a recent (1971) discussion involving twenty Lesbians between the ages of twenty-five and thirty-two, where it was revealed that only two had not attempted suicide when they were teenagers. It was shocking to us that eighteen out of twenty young women had been made to feel so degraded by the realization of their Lesbian identity, their self image so debased, that suicide seemed to be their only out." (Pg. 27)

They admit, "many Lesbians are completely passive and cannot bring themselves to reciprocate and make love to their partners, and that a number of Lesbians never have any sex at all... We mentioned earlier that many Lesbians are frigid, a concept that blows the minds of most straight persons who have always thought of Lesbians only as sexual beings... heterosexual women do not have a corner of the frigidity market created by society's oppression of women." (Pg. 71, 73)

They point out that "At least three-fourths of the Lesbians we have known have had heterosexual intercourse more than once, either in a marriage situation, while dating, as an experiment out of curiosity, or as a test of sexual identity. For the majority of these women the experience was good... But there was not the emotional involvement which was present in a Lesbian relationship." They add, "In our rap session Lesbian mothers question traditional concepts of raising children. Many reject the need for a father figure or male substitutes as role models for their young sons. They don't want their sons to grow up to be like their fathers or like most men in our society today. They want to raise a new breed of men who know that their manhood does not depend upon the subjection of women." (Pg. 174)

They observe, "The fact is that Lesbians must work, and guarding their jobs is what accounts for the bulk of their paranoid feelings." (Pg. 209) They add, "There are other pressures besides employment protection pulling at the Lesbian and provoking more fears: the family, religion, and the law... Lesbians bring with them ... all the values and hangups of their upbringing. If they have been raised in a religious family, that religion, even if they have quite its practice, will always be with them and will play a vital part in their lives." (Pg. 229)

They recount, "DOB cooperated in numerous research projects, only to be sadly disillusioned by the results... Drs. Saghir and Robins... interviewed fifty-seven Lesbians from DOB and forty-three single heterosexual women as a control group. Briefly, they found that the chief differences between the two groups were in `the increased prevalence of alcoholism and of attempted suicide' on the part of the Lesbians... Nowhere... do the good doctors mention that the slight statistical difference between the two groups of women just might be a result of all the oppression to which the Lesbian is subject." (Pg. 266-267)

This pathbreaking book is absolutely "must reading" for anyone studying not just Lesbians, but women in general.