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by Katherine Stoner

The all-in-one guide that shows couples how to end a marriage, fairly and inexpensively. Can you really have a civilized divorce? Ending a marriage is always difficult, but it need not be defined by financial or emotional conflict. Avoid huge legal bills and jockeying lawyers while protecting your kids -- turn to Divorce Without Court for help. The book guides you through a negotiated divorce, using divorce mediation or a new approach called "collaborative divorce." Encouraging and straightforward, Divorce Without Court explains how mediation works, how collaborative divorce works, how to use either to end a marriage, how to maximize opportunities for settlement, how to get an agreement in writing and how to find and use advisors. Divorce Without Court provides the latest resources, contact information for state offices, national and regional organizations, and clear examples of what you can expect.
Download Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation & Collaborative Divorce epub
ISBN: 141330494X
ISBN13: 978-1413304947
Category: Law
Subcategory: Family Law
Author: Katherine Stoner
Language: English
Publisher: NOLO; 1 edition (June 22, 2006)
Pages: 416 pages
ePUB size: 1951 kb
FB2 size: 1700 kb
Rating: 4.8
Votes: 890
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I am a big fan of Nolo books. This one gives a lot of information to people who have no idea what they are getting into when they start thinking of getting a divorce.

Whenever I have a client who comes to me for a divorce mediation, I make them read this book. They really thank me...they should thank Nolo!
Fast Lovebird
This Nolo Press book is a very basic, extremely helpful and well-organized overview of the mediation/collaboration process. The questionnaires are straightforward and help to simplify some initial decisions. However, I had hoped for more information and advice on negotiating a somewhat more complex financial situation, especially for couples without children. For that, I recommend : Divorce & Money: Everything You Need to Know About Dividing Property and The Complete Guide to Protecting Your Financial Security When Getting a Divorce
I really enjoyed reading this book. It was very informative. Though I have no intentions of getting a divorce, it is nice to know that there are other options out there.
If you want to learn about the process of mediation or collaborative divorce (where lawyers work with their respective clients, but agree to avoid the court process), this book is a good starting point. If you are trying to figure out what's a fair settlement or resolution, who should get what under the law, don't bother with this book.

The book discusses options for proceeding to divorce without the expense of court through the process of mediation or collaboration. One key feature of these processes is that the divorcing couple actually decides the outcome, with help from the mediator or attorneys. The laws that would dictate the result in a courtroom do not necessarily apply. Because of this, the book doesn't provide clear guidance on how to split assets --

Chapters include:
The Role of Mediation and Collaborative Law in the Divorce Process
What Happens in Mediation
What Happens in Collaborative Divorce
Deciding to Mediate or Collaborate
Proposing Mediation or Collaboration
Finding a Mediator or Collaborative Attorney
Using Advisers and Doing Legal Research
Information Gathering
Preparing for the First SEssion
Evaluating Progress
Communicating & Negotiating
Court-Sponsored Mediation
Writing the Agreement
Women & Men, Unmarried Couples
Mediation and Collaboration After Divorce

There are plenty of worksheets to use for recording issues, outlining concerns, etc. Particularly unique are the model letters from one spouse to the other suggesting mediation or collaboration.

Overall, useful to review if you're contemplating a collaborative divorce. Less useful if you're looking for specific guidance on splitting the assets & liabilities.
"Collaborative and Mediating Divorcing" are different types of divorcing that are pretty recent, claims the book. This book is designed to help further and ease the processes of divorce on families that feel they need to divorce. Further reading is encouraged by the authors, but they offer some assistance on how to have a systematic divorce where a couple is able to sort most things out willfully before they present themselves to a court and reduce future regrets and remorse. Litigation (lawyers of each spouse negotiates for their respective client) and the Collaborative/Mediative (both spouses do their own pre-negotiation avoid lawyers deciding for them) approaches are compared a bit in the first chapter. It seems like collaborative approach is simply a systematic approach to divorcing where a reasonable settlement can be reached and reduce the stress divorce places on the couple and the children.

Other chapters help out by detailing a bit on the process of using and finding a mediator or collaborative attorney. Advisers are also recommended to used in this process when needed, especially a Financial Adviser who can take into account fees and costs of making a legal move. There re also tips on what not to do on mediation or collaborations such as not patronizing the other spouse when introducing the options of collaboration or mediation.

Information gathering is also an important part of the process and sample worksheets are provided to give an idea of how to go about this area.

Court-sponsored mediation is given it's own treatment on the issue too along with systematic tips on what to when encountering difficulties in mediation and collaboration. There is even a chapter on collaboration and mediation for "unmarried" couples.

Finally, the only complaint I have for this book is that thought there are some "Real world examples", there could be more to help dive the points throughout the book. Aside from this the book is a good book for anyone studying the divorcing process or is considering , unfortunately, to divorce.

Since this book is about trying to make for a reasonable divorce process, it would be wise for people to consider the long term effects of divorce on children of divorce before they decide to divorce. For this I recommend a sociological 25 year study on what happens to children of divorce and what divorce creates for the next generation of potential spouses - it's not pretty. Read the study to see some effects on relationships divorce places on children of divorce in Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, The: A 25 Year Landmark Study.

Divorces can get nasty, but they don't have to be