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by Dr. Robin Zasio,Cassandra Campbell




We all have treasured possessions—a favorite pair of shoes, a much-beloved chair, an ever-expanding record collection. But sometimes, this emotional attachment to our belongings can spiral out of control and culminate into a condition called compulsive hoarding. From hobbyists and collectors to pack rats and compulsive shoppers—it is close to impossible for hoarders to relinquish their precious objects, even if it means that stuff takes over their lives and their homes.According to psychologist Dr. Robin Zasio, our fascination with hoarding stems from the fact that most of us fall somewhere on the hoarding continuum. Even though it may not regularly interfere with our everyday lives, to some degree or another, many of us hoard.The Hoarder in You provides practical advice for decluttering and organizing, including how to tame the emotional pull of acquiring additional things, make order out of chaos by getting a handle on clutter, and create an organizational system that reduces stress and anxiety. Dr. Zasio also shares some of the most serious cases of hoarding that she's encountered, and explains how we can learn from these extreme examples—no matter where we are on the hoarding continuum.
Download The Hoarder in You: How to Live a Happier, Healthier, Uncluttered Life epub
ISBN: 1452655499
ISBN13: 978-1452655499
Category: Fitness
Subcategory: Mental Health
Author: Dr. Robin Zasio,Cassandra Campbell
Language: English
Publisher: Tantor Audio; MP3 - Unabridged CD edition (December 19, 2011)
ePUB size: 1236 kb
FB2 size: 1810 kb
Rating: 4.5
Votes: 403
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Sennnel
I recently read The House We Grew Up In: A Novel by Lisa Jewell which I thoroughly enjoyed and it prompted me to pursue additional information on hoarding. While that book is fiction, it appeared to have been well researched and I wanted to read more on the subject.

This book is by Robin Zasio (sorry to say I hadn't heard of her before as I have never watched the television show) who is a psychologist specializing in hoarding disorder. I thought she did an excellent job of presenting the material in a very conversational way and never fell into the dry textbook style that makes the reader feel like he/she is wading through a lot of data and trying to piece together what it all means. My belief is that this book isn't written as a self-help book for folks with a serious hoarding disorder, but is written for the friends and family of the hoarder as well as people who are clutterers or possibly on the border line with an actual disorder. People who are seriously affected by hoarding most likely don't recognize their problem (as is explained in the book) and aren't going to be picking up a book to research a problem they don't think they have. It is helpful to the friends or family as it explains quite a bit about the condition and how the hoarder views their "stuff" and the negative reaction they have to people trying to interfere and take away their precious possessions.

Personally, I am not a hoarder but do have hoarding, cluttering tendencies coupled with a desire to live in a very uncluttered environment. Since these are diametrically opposed to each other, my mode of operation is to acquire items and create clutter piles followed by periods of purging when it all gets to be too much for my comfort. It's a bit like the binge/purge cycle in eating disorders - the healthy thing is to not to binge in the first place. Through this book, I have been able in recent days to look at what is behind my acquisition periods as well as my difficulty getting rid of things/paper/receipts/etc. which are loaded with emotion. I have come to believe that some of my issue is that I was raised with depression era parents who grew up with shortages and rationing -- they were forever impacted by this experience and I grew up thinking that you should keep everything that might be useful someday since it might not be available when you needed it otherwise. This book was of immense help in identifying the anxiety I feel about letting the "good deal" go or the item that still had life in it but I didn't need it any more. The author also addresses all the family stuff that gets passed on from parents and grandparents and the guilt that comes with not wanting it all and trying to get rid of it.

Bottom line: An excellent book on a subject that isn't understood very well. Anyone who has more stuff or clutter in their lives than they are comfortable with would benefit from reading this and taking time for personal reflection.
Urreur
I too saw this book reviewed by the NY Times and bought it for my Kindle the same day. While I don't have a problem with hoarding (no really, I swear!) the book has helped me with clutter, organization, and letting go. It was also well-written and well-organized. I liked how each chapter gave an overview of a particular behavior and then dove deeply into it and how to treat it. This allowed me to skip over the parts that weren't relevant to me and focus on the ones that were.

The book helped me make three changes in my relationship to stuff. It helped me recognize "excessive acquirer" tendencies in myself. Too good a deal to pass up? Buying more in bulk than I need? Imagining someone who could use it? Guilty but getting better.

The book also gave me specific suggestions for dealing with areas like my closet and files. Finally it helped me to see the "opportunity cost" of keeping things that I am not really using. This was particularly helpful in cleaning out my freezer and pantry.

In sum, Dr. Zasio helped me realize a few behaviors that were detracting me from my best life and she provided me common sense advice that helped me change my perspective and behavior. Buying and reading this book was time and money well spent.
Cerana
Hoarding is one of those fascinating subjects, and also interesting because “hoarding” didn’t get an official framework until 1996 (according to the author). This book is strongest in the middle sections where the theories of hoarding get a scientific and psychological review. The opening chapters include a lot of summary that is mostly common sense. The ending chapters offer solutions to those perpetually stuck in clean-up mode. Overall, the book’s target audience is for those seeking help. I reached for it with an interest in how shopping urges and clean-out urges blend with lifestyle choices and emotional attachments. Why is there such a great feeling after cleaning out a closet? ...Or why does a day-after-Christmas sale at Macy’s entice you to arrive at 6am and physically vie for a bunch of damaged ornaments? This book offers some correlations so is thought-provoking. The audio book reader has a soothing voice but I felt it necessary to increase the narration speed.
Mr.Twister
I am not a hoarder. I bought this after reading the review about how it helped a reviewer with issues surrounding how to dispose of inherited items from deceased family members.
I need help with this very issue. I have basically inherited a house filled with the belongings of three generations; my own, my mom's and my grand parents. Even though I can be hard nosed and capable of throwing things away, there is still guilt involved in disposing of things that belonged to loved ones. Additionally I am a collector with valuable collections that cannot simply be casually discarded.
Because I want to move to another house in the near future, after I retire next year, it is imperative that I deal with the difficult issues that surround having so much stuff.
Robin Zasio's book addresses all the issues involved and has helped me gain perspective and specific strategies to redirect my thinking processes in a way to enable me to cope with the tough decisions I have to make.

I recommend this book. It is a short, 200 page, very easy read. I almost finished it in one sitting. It's well worth the $9 bucks or so I paid for it.
Defolosk
My daddy's a hoarder. Every time I visit home, I feel suffocated by his stuff. Even if it's nice stuff, like vibrant Adidas sweatsuits and team sports jackets, I feel closed in by the immensity of his things. I am a fan of Dr. Robin Zazio's work on the Hoarders show and this book is a wonderful guide on how to control my own compulsive shopping tendencies to avoid a similar fate to my father's. I let go of a lot of things. This book is not one of them.